Doing relaxation is proven to make a user become calm in the face of various situations that are less pleasant or stressful. Relaxation can be done with variations, for example, draw a deep breath, doing light exercises to relax the muscles, or even with the words: "relax, just calm, take it easy, it's okay really."
2. Humor
Although anger is a serious thing but if you want to meditate or observe in depth is not uncommon in the anger is often stored on the things that can make you laugh. In fact, you often find that the things which become the cause of anger is a funny thing and very trivial. However, the use of humor should keep in mind 2 things: 1) Do not use humor just to laugh at the problems you face but use humor as a constructive way to solve the problem, 2) do not use humor that is rude or sarcastic because it It is a form of unhealthy anger expression.
3.Changed the way
Individuals who are angry tend to swearing, cursing, swearing and pronounce various words that describe the feelings in his heart. When he was angry then your thoughts and actions can be exaggerated and dramatic. Therefore, try changing the thoughts that are exaggerated by a rational. Example: instead you say: "ah, it was awful, destroyed all, this is a nightmare for me", try to change it with: "yes indeed it makes me frustrated, and I can understand why I get angry, but this is not the end of everything for me and anger will not change anything. "
Given that anger is often turned into irrational then to control it required logical thinking. The more you can think logically (can consider the consequences and think ahead, etc.) then you will more easily control the anger in ourselves. Remind yourself that what is happening would not only experienced by one self and the world you never turn away from you. What is happening is merely a "red ink" in your life. Will remember this every time you feel angry so you can get a more balanced view.
4. Solve Problems in Completed
Given that anger can be triggered by things that come from within themselves as a problem that has not been resolved, it will be very good if you resolve any problems that arise as soon as possible and complete. Although there may be problems in life that can be resolved without your intervention significantly, but it would be nice if you get used to resolve any problems related to your self. By reducing the psychological burden in yourself then it is likely to be marahpun will be reduced.
5. Practicing how to Communicate
In many cases people become angry because of the failure in communication. Example: unpreparedness in the face of differences of opinion, not willing to be a listener or even always tried to impose the will on others. Things like this is what usually makes people angry tend to conclusions quickly and conclusions are often bizarre and unexpected.
While each individual has the right to defend yourself when criticized or asked to argument, but for that peace of mind and attitude needed to not respond in a hurry. A good idea to listen carefully what you want delivered by others, even when the person is revealed that contrary to your opinion. It does take patience and humility from you, but the impact will be very useful because when it does not arise anger in you then there is definitely a situation that can be controlled. Positive result you become more mature in communication.
6. Changing Environment
What is meant by changing the environment can be a realignment of residence or your workplace. Changing the environment can also mean changing the rules in force in the neighborhood and also involves changing the habits of yourself to avoid an unpleasant environment or out of that environment for a while. Example: instead of you becomes angry-angry with co-workers because of bored with working conditions that exist, then there is a good idea to take time off from work and go to a place to cool off. In this way then your mind will be fresh again and ready to work without anger
post by : http://weboku.blog.uns.ac.id/2009/05/26/tips-menenangkan-hati-dan-pikiran/
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